A cancer diagnosis can be tough to take, and not just for the patient.
Caregivers are a vital part of a cancer patient's care team, but the role can be exhausting. Plenty of caregivers struggle with the challenges of helping their loved one navigate treatment and, hopefully, survival.
Research published in the journal Medicine measured the scope of the problem.
"The prevalence of anxiety and depression in cancer patient caregivers, as measured with validated instruments, is approximately 47% and 42%, respectively," the researchers, led by Hai Mei Geng from Beijing Shijitan Hospital in China, said when the study was released. "This high prevalence of anxiety and depression affects the quality of life of the caregiver."
Here are some tips to help you navigate caregiving for someone with cancer and provide the best care you can for your loved one.
Communication is key
Take the time to listen to the patient. They may have strong feelings about what they want to do for themselves and where they need help. The American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) suggests reassuring the patient they will be a central part of all decisions and discussions. Remain open to the patient's feelings and opinions. Still, you should acknowledge your feelings when speaking with the patient.
When communicating with the care team, use a notebook. Writing down your questions and keeping them handy during visits with the caregiving team is helpful.
ASCO suggests the following questions for the care team:
Be organized
Staying organized will help ease the stress of caregiving for someone with cancer.
A day planner may be helpful if you prefer pen and paper; many offer ample space for notes. It will also allow for easy tracking of medical appointments and caregiver responsibilities. Also, consider digital options. A shared electronic calendar and note-taking system may be helpful. A hybrid method may be best; try a digital calendar and a handwritten journal.
The Cleveland Clinic recommends organizing the following information:
Delegate tasks
According to ASCO, there are ways to make caregiving a team effort. Create a list of tasks that will be involved with caregiving. Some tasks to include:
Friends and family can be assigned these individual tasks and then scheduled in the planner. This helps keep everyone on task.
Physical care of the patient
The patient may need assistance with dressing, feeding, grooming and toileting. ASCO suggests inquiring about rehabilitation services. A visiting nurse, occupational therapist, physical therapist and others can come into the home and help manage the patient's care. They can teach you how to help the patient when they are absent. These services can be arranged by your primary care physician or specialist, and they are often covered by insurance. They can work with the patient during treatment and after treatment has finished.
Self-care matters
Taking care of yourself during this time is vital.
UCSF Health recommends the following to help avoid caregiver burnout:
Watch for signs of stress or burnout, including impatience, sleep difficulty, and difficulty concentrating or with memory. If any of these problems last more than a week or two, call your doctor.